Helping to Reconnect Counselling Services

Divorce/Separation

The dissolution of a marriage is almost always an upsetting event, at the very least marked by disappointment and the loss of dreams and expectations. Divorce is as much of an emotional process as it is a legal process. Individuals must come to terms with the relationship failure, set up emotionally and usually financially independent lives, and put the relationship firmly in the past. It is important to understand and accept the role each partner played in the relationship breakdown.

It is often helpful for individuals to set up rules of engagement to limit contact with

each other. The outside perspective of a professional counselor can be especially beneficial.

When children are involved it adds another dynamic. Every child reacts differently to divorce, parental response is best tailored to the needs of each child. Kids are often scared, confused, angry, or disappointed in one or both parents.

Many of the effects of divorce on children are short lived and resolve within a year or two. However, others may be longer lasting and play out in later attitudes toward romantic relationships. A counsellor can help you provide the adequate support to your children throughout the divorce/ separation process.